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SotonGuy22 37 M
3  questions
How do you like to meet? - 1/25/2009

It seems that most people are on here for a sex experiance rather than to find a relationship (Generalising, but that seems to be in the majority).

So, to those of you who are here just for sex, are you mostly looking purely for a one-night-stand? For a fuck-buddy arrangement? Or a more intimate "Friends with benefits" relationship?

Or, are you looking for fun with a view to ...

11 response(s), 14 votes
Are Threesomes Overrated? - 1/25/2009

I was watching an interview with porn star Janine Lindemulder and she said she didn't like threesomes as she preferred to give all of her attention to one person while having sex. So that got me thinking - are threesomes overrated? Any comments are most welcome.

6 response(s), 5 votes
2four2instpoint 57 C
7  questions
In a New Relationship But Playing with Previous Playmates. - 1/25/2009

How does everyone feel about being with a previous play partner when you are now part of a new "Lifestyle" couple in a more than a "Friends With Benefits" relationship? For example, in our situation, we are coming in contact with people who have once played with one of us before in the past. Should those former playing partners now be off limits to us? At first, we agreed that yes we would not ...

11 response(s), 12 votes
Starlight7055 53 F
1  question
Thinking after sex. - 1/25/2009

Quetion for you guys -

After you have had a sexual encounter do you think about what happened afterwards - for want of a better description do you replay the nights events in your head? Do you get enjoyment out of doing this if you do? Does the context of how the sex took place play a part?

19 response(s), 23 votes
rm_NEIMAN37 49 F
23  questions
Ladys--- Vibrators causing pain? - 1/25/2009

Ok! Can over use of a vibrator cause pain(or pressure) in your g-spot area? I love toys during sex and I love toys by myself but can it cause problems or damage? If so will it go away if not used for a while?

5 response(s), 10 votes
rm_que_es59 64 M
3  questions
mature - 1/25/2009

As a new (male) Standard member, I am unable to open e-mails that are sitting in my Inbox. When I contact CS, all I get are cryptic responses, like this one:

"You will be able to read e-mails once your account matures."

What the heck does this mean? Does anyone know from experience how long I'll have to wait; or what specific activities on the site will 'age' my account? Is this ...

18 response(s), 16 votes
rm_BustyB1977 40 F
8  questions
What do you do when.........? - 1/25/2009

What do you do when a man dick to just not gettign the job done. I mean he is in mid stroke and it is not pleasing to you at all. Do you tell him to stop? Do you let him continue until he has gotten his rocks off? WHAT?

17 response(s), 16 votes
rm_BustyB1977 40 F
8  questions
Why do men brag about what they can do? - 1/25/2009

I have been on this site a couple of months now and it seems to me that most men talk about what they can do and how they do. However, when it gets right down to it and the sex takes place, he is nothing that he stated that he would be. Now we are grown ppl here. If you can't be the person you say you are, then don't say it. What are you gaining by lying? Don't you think we women will find out ...

25 response(s), 27 votes
rm_que_es59 64 M
3  questions
the 'dating' thing - 1/25/2009

Select the answer that most closely matches how you feel.

For me, dating is:

a. for sheer entertainment

b. to avoid being lonely

c. to get to know someone better

d. an element of romantic courtship

e. too much pressure and expectation

Please add a comment to explain your answer.

Thanks!

10 response(s), 12 votes
rm_BustyB1977 40 F
8  questions
Swinging - 1/25/2009

I have often wondered what it would be like to swing with another couple. I asked a few men about how they felt about swinging and they all stated that there would be a lingering thought of if their woman would go back and fuck the partner behind his back. So the question I have goes:

Does swinging cause tension in a good relationship?

Please ...


11 response(s), 17 votes
rm_BustyB1977 40 F
8  questions
Women---Cool or Coo-Coo - 1/25/2009

Some women are seen as spiteful and vendictive, while some are cool and collective. Would anyone on here say that sometimes men become victims of injustice when dealing with some of us? Explain PLEASE....

15 response(s), 18 votes
Misbehavn2 55 C
37  questions
OK COGNAC LACE - 1/25/2009

I WILL COMMENCE IN TAKEING DOWN THE GROUP I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT DESTROYING SOMETHING THAT MADE OTHERS FEEL COMFORTABLE,

BUT IM SURE YOU'LL SLEEP NO DIFFERENT KNOWING IT'S GONE.

BUT I CANT Guarantee IT WONT BE BACK UP, OH YEAH ALL THE POST WILL BE DELETE THANKS TO YOU I HOPE YOUR HAPPY,



JUST LET ME SAY THIS YOU WILL BE REMEMBER HERE WE WILL REMEMBER YOU ...

13 response(s), 26 votes
rm_nobull1960 58 F
17  questions
Cupid Preferences - Especially Smoking - 1/24/2009

Greetings!

I have a nasty addiction to cigarettes. I am a polite, outdoor smoker who uses mouthwash and washes her hands after a smoke when on a date/meet.

I can go 3hrs. or so without a smoke; after a meal or a couple drinks I really crave a cigarette.

I'll get to the point now.

PLEASE indicate your preferences in your Cupid Preference area of your profile ...

14 response(s), 30 votes
itzchic824 37 F
37  questions
any suggestions on how to orgasm? - 1/24/2009

I have never had an orgasm at all. not by myself or with a guy. now I know that some women can't at all or some just take awhile until they can. I just feel so weird cause even though I'm not the only one who has this problem. I still like sex and all, I just can't orgasm. it's frustrating. any suggestions?

26 response(s), 37 votes
rm_Woffies 52 M
6  questions
Shaving advice Men or Women? - 1/24/2009

Some do...Some don't...Some use Razors Some use other stuff. You got any Advice for those who want to give it a try? Men or Women. If you have different tricks to stop breaking out or razor burn please post. If you have warnings of what NOT to do or try post that much faster

11 response(s), 10 votes
Swankie57 65 M
56  questions
Sleeping With a Hillbilly... - 1/24/2009

Sleeping with a Hillbilly…Men would you do it? Picture a young attractive girl that enjoys sex constantly but has gross habits mainly spitting in the drawer of a night stand! A true candidate for the Jerry Springer show. She is an escapee from a woman’s prison; I think assault was the charge that wanted badly to be impregnated before she is caught. She also has strong ties with her ...

11 response(s), 29 votes
rm_recipe64 52 F
1  question
Deep Throat - 1/24/2009

I love doing deep throat. I don't gag unless the guy is more than 9 inches long. Guys tell me they love the feeling of having their entire cock in my mouth. They usually blow their load really fast. How many guys like this? How many women can do it and like to do it?

28 response(s), 46 votes
rm_Probber 50 M
4  questions
Insecurity or jealousy - 1/24/2009

So my god has a boyfriend she is 15 and he is the same he calls her on average on the hour and quizzes her on where she is who she is with, etc. If she doesn't answer the question to his liking he berates her and accuses her of cheating.This is not her first boyfriend he is hispanic and she chooses to date latinos she is Caucasian and not yet sexually active. When we ask her about the situation ...

13 response(s), 26 votes
rm_Probber 50 M
4  questions
Did some one loose a little boy?? - 1/24/2009

sex but with who? 5/6/2008 8:17 am i seen this question there someone was aksing "who to sleep with"? well that is a good thing to know. i'm all fucked up right now and would love to have sex with this friend of my. and she knows all about it. hell she wants it to. she will not tell. but i like her too. but i have a gf. that i am with for the sex. but i would ike to be with the friend. if i do ...

10 response(s), 17 votes
rm_ruready99301 57 M
4  questions
younger women with older men - 1/24/2009

what is the best way to meet younger women. Only legal age. I no they are out there but its hard to find one near me.

15 response(s), 25 votes
What do you do with a stocker X girlfriend? - 1/24/2009

We have an X that will not leave (HIM - my man for 10 yrs) us alon? She continuely calls him on his cell, she has been caught outside our home, she took over our (nolovejustsex99) account for a bit, she tells other HardHookUp.com members terrible lies about me (the female of this couple), she is just a constant thorn! The only good thing is she finally got arrested for a PCS charge so she may be in jail a ...

6 response(s), 2 votes
rm_ruready99301 57 M
4  questions
Hey guys anyone tried the flesh lite - 1/24/2009

I have tried a few masturbators and was wondering if the flesh lite was any good.

4 response(s), 15 votes
rm_rancher153 68 M
2  questions
Shaved or unshaved? - 1/24/2009

I guess you could call me an old fashioned guy, but what is this with many of you women shaving all your pubic hair? To me (and I have learned many other men) this is one of the sexiest parts of a woman. It is so feminine to see that beautiful hair. What is the attraction of a grown woman wanting to look like a little girl? I just don't understand it. Shave the lips if you must, but please leave ...

36 response(s), 47 votes
rm_NEIMAN37 49 F
23  questions
How would a straight woman find a women for experimentation? - 1/24/2009

Lately I have been thinking it might be fun to be touched, licked, and fondled by another woman. Now this is new to me so please be gentle. I don't want to do the couple thing. I don't want to find a lesbian ( no offense ). I would just like to find someone like me with a high sexual energy and taste for experimentation for a one time nsa evening. I am not sure how to attract a situation ...

8 response(s), 14 votes
rm_cumquatme 50 F
9  questions
PROFILE BLING - 1/24/2009

Is there a way to rearrange bling on my profile?

5 response(s), 7 votes
luvhunter71 47 M
3  questions
Is humour the best form of attraction?? - 1/24/2009

Personally I am always turned on by a girl with humour and overlook alot else. I have, believe or not been out with some very very pretty women, who have no sense of humour aswell as a few with a sense of humour, guess what one me over. I suppose from my point of view your character is what truly makes you and always last, no matter who or what age are.

What do you all think?

...

8 response(s), 17 votes
emspair 51 C
3  questions
Clothes on or off? - 1/24/2009

So.... we all know that in pornos, everyone usually winds up naked. But our question to the HardHookUp.com folks is "Do you have sex naked, clothed or somewhere in between?"...

35 response(s), 22 votes
Doing the rounds on the Psych ward - 1/24/2009

As the doctor was doing his rounds on the Mental Health ward, he walked into the room of his first patient. He saw his patient standing in the middle of the bed, with an invisible bat, swinging like he was hitting home runs. The doctor asked him what he was doing and the patient replied "I'm gonna be a professional baseball player when I get out of here." The doctor replied "that's a good career ...

6 response(s), 7 votes
smoking - 1/24/2009

Any advice on giving up smoking.i smoke twenty a day and tried giving up before but only lasted three days.I wish i never started.please help.

10 response(s), 7 votes
umanko 49 M
6  questions
WHEN YOU ARE HAVING A SEX? - 1/24/2009

have you ever think or imaging about other men or woman while you are having sex with your partner?

and why woman close they eyes while they are having a sex?..( my partner start doing that/never done before)

i hope it's not a seely question!

20 response(s), 22 votes